Reaching Out

What does someone’s soul look like, really? What do the heart, motivation, values and beliefs… all of those things… really look like? We’re in a culture that so easily masks these things because we have a perception of what we believe others need to see.   A homeless person who is wearing worn, tattered clothes … Continued

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Two are Better than One

If you have kids, you might remember the nursery rhyme that goes something like this: “The animals went in two by two, Hurrah! Hurrah! The elephant and the kangaroo, Hurrah! Hurrah! The animals went in two by two, the elephant and the kangaroo.” Pretty catchy lyrics, huh?! The two by two part reminded me of … Continued

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Build on High Ground

There is another great principle I’ve learned from the story of Noah’s Ark. It sort of states the obvious, are you ready: Build on High Ground. While this might seem pretty obvious, there is great truth in this principle. In looking more closely, I believe this is actually two smaller truths: 1) When you have a … Continued

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The Power of Words – A Child’s Perspective

“Sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” This common phrase echoed on the elementary school playground when I was a child, but have you ever stopped to notice that those same words are very rarely spoken there today? I believe it’s because we have finally realized the life-changing power … Continued

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3 Ways to Help Us Love Like Jesus

You know how CEOs and Boards of Directors make vision statements for their corporations or businesses? They do so to maximize effectiveness and create higher profitability within their company. What if we, as believers, followed that lead and made vision statements for our walk with Christ to help us love like Jesus, specifically how we interact … Continued

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Kindness matters more

I can be oblivious sometimes. If we’re honest, it’s likely something we all are guilty of from time to time. Life is busy and we become laser focused checking off the task at hand and moving on to the next thing on the list. Often times, in the midst of our focus, we become totally … Continued

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What Joey Feek taught me about loving others

Few people are able to make such a sizable impact and touch lives in both the secular world as well as the faith-based community, but one woman was successful in doing just that, the late country music singer and song writer, Joey Feek. Prior to the past few weeks, when her touching story became headline … Continued

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The Six Proven Happiness Boosters

We have combed through all the scientific studies we could find on happiness to lift out the best of what we know works to make and maintain happiness in marriage. And we’ve settled on a half dozen happiness boosters that are sure to move the needle in your relationship. These are the six dials we … Continued

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Making Happy Together (part 2)

Easy as Pie? Ever heard of a happiness set point? It has to do with our genes. Researchers have found that 50 percent of our happiness is determined by our biology. Turns out that some brains are happier than others. We sometimes call it temperament. And we’re more or less stuck with it. If our … Continued

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Getting love out of the rough

Do you golf? Honestly, I goof more than I golf but since golf courses as a group are quite possibly the most beautiful places on earth, what’s not to love? From the time he was little, our son Chris took golf lessons every summer. For fun, he and I loved to team up against my … Continued

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Learning to be a Good Listener

Listen and Understand – Often the most loving thing to do is simply listen. Deep down, people desperately want to be understood, to know someone cares enough to pay attention. I lived for several years in Los Angeles, in an area where there are around 100,000 homeless people. I used to go for a walk … Continued

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Love More Like Jesus

In our student ministry we recently finished our big fall event. The theme we chose for the event was #LoveLikeJesus (Hashtag Love Like Jesus). Now in all honesty we chose this theme because I knew that I would be involved in this blog, but at the same time I don’t know how I feel about … Continued

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This is the primacy of our faith

Meet Darryl I received my first Bible at the age of five, a picture Bible. I remember growing up loving the stories in Scripture, learning them, and kind of contending to the faith a little bit like Jude. I took it with somewhat of a prophetic chip on my shoulder. When I went on to seminary, … Continued

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The hypocritical Christian: #loveLikeJohn

I have filters I operate with. They’ve been there for a long time and they are hard to avoid. When I’m not thinking about them, they slip into place and force me to view everything from their perspective. They prevent me from seeing you well and they even prevent me from seeing me well. I’m … Continued

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Just say no to endorphins

Well, that might be overstating things a little, but I am concerned about a chemical dependency on endorphins to keep a relationship healthy. Endorphins are neurotransmitters, which in English means chemicals that pass signals from neuron to neuron. There are quite a few different kinds, but I am specifically referring to the feelings of euphoria … Continued

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The principals of love: loving

Love is all sorts of elements in motion. Imagine that one of your loved ones has just died. At the wake, a co-worker who doesn’t really like you comes up and says coolly and properly, “I’m sorry for your loss.” Also at the wake, your best friend walks up to you and puts her arms … Continued

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